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It Isn’t What You Would Do, It is What You Should Do

 

When you see someone who needs assistance what do you do? Most folks – as much as I hate to admit it – walk the other way. It’s a “gee that girl looked so upset, hope she’s okay….where did I park” kind of mentality that we are living with in society today.

I had one of those moments and when the girl told me she would be fine waiting at a gas station for a locksmith by herself, obviously upset, the only words that came to my head are ones I have often said…

“If my mom, my daughter, my sister, my friend were in this situation I would hope someone would see they were upset and in need of a friend or helping hand. I wouldn’t want them to be there alone, fretting with no one to talk to. It just wouldn’t be right. I would want someone to stop and help them.”

That is the reason I stayed and waited. During our hour, I watched over 20 cars pull in, look at the situation and leave without another thought while we chatted.

Think about it this way WE ARE ALL ONE!!!!! End of story! We have to take the time now and change from the world we now live in which is an all for me type of world.  We must realize and accept that we are small portions of a larger system. It isn’t a what would you do world it is a come on and do it world that we have to be creating together.

It is time for everyone to step up and work to co-create the universe we wish to be living in. Without taking this important step, we can never grow past what we see now and into the world of the future.  The world where we are actually standing up and making changes every day.

So the challenge really becomes can you step out of your own life for 5 minutes when you see someone in trouble, in need, in crisis.  Can you stop your thoughts about where you need to be and what you need to do and extend a helping hand?  If you answered yes, you are already a part of the solution.

Let’s co-create a better world, let’s remember that we are all one. Think about it this way: what would you want for your mother, sister, wife, girlfriend, daughter or friend and act accordingly.

Namaste!

Where Are You Now?

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Where are you now?  Or is a better question Where aren’t you now?

Life changes.  Sometimes life changes a lot and it changes fast.  Some changes seem like they are for our best interest and some seem like they have no point at all in relation to our lives. We may even think that what is changing is the worst change possible.  Then when we stand where we currently reside on our timeline we realize it was a good thing.

I have recently began looking back at the last 15 years of my life.  Can I just say WOW!  So much is different and so much is new!  I look at some years and think how sad they were and then realize that they made me who I am today. I look at other years and simply smile at the joy that began then and continues through today.

We cannot go backwards.  Ever.  We may reconnect with people from our past but they are new and in the now and even that relationship is different.  We may change our career or our spiritual path but it is where we are now that counts.

We truly cannot plan for the future because we never truly know where we will be going.  Things change that quickly.

We read so much about being present that it almost seems cliché to us at times.  Present in what? Present with what?  Face it we are creatures who are obsessed with where we have been and where we are going.  The present, well that seems to have no purpose whatsoever in this fast paced plan ahead and learn from your mistakes world.

I invite you to look at your NOW.  Where are you right now?  Are you happy with what you see?  If so you are in the flow and life is moving for you?  If not, ask yourself why?  Don’t let your past keep you from being fully in the present.

We are in a world where things change constantly and seemingly instantaneously.  It takes no time for information to travel around the globe.  With things changing so fast, ask yourself why can’t your life be a part of this quick transition?  And how can you do that?

Sit, take one moment of your hectic day, your hectic life. For one minute think about now. Look at the timeline of where you are and really be there just for a moment.  You will notice a shift in your energy and in your thoughts.  If you can do this every day, you will begin to see changes in your life.

Be present.  Be in the now.  Enjoy the ride!

 

After the Storm, Love Wins

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We all go through what I call Life Storms.  All of the sudden our calm, peaceful lives are filled with clouds, doubts, difficulties and sometimes failures.  When the clouds form we often muddle through, getting by however we can.

When the storm hits full on we are tossed about in a sea of emotions like a small boat with no rudder.  More often than not, fight or flight takes over and we become emotion monsters.  We are taunted by anger, hurt, frustration and worst of all doubt and confusion.

Everyone and I mean everyone has fought through a life storm. Often we have endured more than one storm. Some even become hurricanes and tornadoes tossing aside all logic in our lives.  We become lost and devastated. We begin to react out of ego, judgement and fear.

I recall such a storm in my life in 2007.  I look back now and think, “Who was that?”.  You see during these life storms we cannot step aside and ask what we are doing.  We are unable to change our course. We are caught in the stormy sea with no land in sight.

Shortly, however, the clouds pass. The change has occurred and we move on.  The life storm has transformed our existence forever.  Often the people involved are gone.

Sometimes we are presented with those players again in a calmer, gentler and quieter storm. They reappear to give us an opportunity to heal our timeline from that previous storm.  We begin to feel those old emotions come back up.  We find ourselves dreading the inevitable encounter with this person or that person or situation.  So how do you do it?

When the occasion presents itself, breathe! Take a deep breath and embrace it!  I found a cure for life storms.  It is called love.  Try this exercise, tell them, “I love you”.  I hear you saying why would I do that?  Why indeed?  They helped you change and it is often a change for the better.  Embrace them and their love to help you make the change that was needed.  You don’t have to like them or their choices or actions.  You don’t have to be their friend…but you have to love them.

If you can find a place of forgiveness in your heart to openly love them for being them and for their contribution to your life shopping cart you have truly transformed and grown. You are now empowered.  You win!

In all things, Love Wins!

Life’s Stressful Moments

100_0668Let’s be honest, no matter who you are, life is full of stressful moments.

Yesterday was my day to be completely stressed.  I had to make decisions and be in charge.  It was scary.  But I knew what was right.  I knew what my job was and I stuck to the plan and did it.  Granted it exhausted me, but I did it.

So here is some advice about stress.  We all have it.  We all let it get the best of us.  Keep looking through the window and just believe you are doing what is right.  In other words, forge ahead.  Don’t hesitate or linger.

Breathe.  It is very important to breathe through the stress.  I actually caught myself nearly holding my breath during my stressful moment, not good.  Be mindful of your breath and breathe deeply.  It calms and centers you through the storm.

Finally, remember that tomorrow is another day.  Right on the other side of this rough spot is tomorrows green grass.  Hang in there.  This too will pass.  Life is in flow, follow the flow and let it go!

Hope this helps you along your day!  Blessings!